Spending one on one time with kids is one of the most crucial ways to improve your relationship with them. These are moments that your kids will always remember, moments where you will get to know their personality the most, and times that help build trust and a bond between the two of you that will last a lifetime.
It isn’t hard to devote one on one time with each child. You just have to make a plan and put in the effort. 30 minutes of your day can mean the world to your kids.
Spending One on One Time with Kids
I only have one daughter, so it is a bit easier for me at this point to carve out time in my day for JUST her. No phones or distractions. But when you have multiple children it might seem difficult to make this time to spend one on one time with each child.
If you have multiple children, let them pick a day or two out of each month where they get their own mom and me or dad and me time. Have them write it on the calendar each month so that they can look forward to it!
The best part about spending one on one time with your kids is that it doesn’t have to be complicated. I feel SO fulfilled and I can tell my daughter does too after doing something as simple as cooking dinner together.
When I first started making an effort to leave my phone on silent and dedicate 100% of my attention to my preschooler I thought I was doing it for her benefit, but after a few times of doing it I realized how much it was fulfilling my mama heart to talk with her and spend time with her that I normally would have missed out on because of work emails or other distractions.
30 Day One on One Time Challenge
If you struggle with finding time to spend with your kids one on one, here is a starting place…a 30 day one on one time challenge!
It can be hard to alter your routine and find a time to do this so a challenge that gets the whole family involved is the perfect way to start.
I’ve included a printable of these ideas and you can use them in 2 different ways.
- As a calendar – print out this sheet and put it on your fridge. Then you can mark out the days one by one! If you have multiple children you can use a highlighter to “assign” the days to different kids.
- As cards – print out the sheet and cut out the individual boxes. Then place them in a jar and have your kids draw a random card out of the jar each day. Again, if you have multiple children assign days that they get to draw their cards!
Here are 30 different ways to spend one on one time together! If your kiddo isn’t interested in one of these have a “free day” where they can choose what they want to do with you.
Day 1: Play board game together
There are tons of fun board games out there for kids. If they are younger, try something like candy land! There are also some really fun educational board games for preschool aged kids on Amazon that we love too.
If your kiddos are older, let them choose from the board games you have at the house!
Day 2: Watch a movie
My daughter loves when we make a “movie theater” in her room. We shut off the lights, make a pallet of blankets and pillows on the floor, make popcorn, and watch a movie together!
Day 3: Go for a walk
This is one of my favorite ways to bond with my daughter. It burns her preschooler energy, gets her talking to me, and she can explore nature too! I have had some of the best conversations with her while taking walks.
Day 4: Bake a dessert
It can be boxed or it can be homemade, either way I don’t know a single kid that doesn’t love getting messy in the kitchen!
Day 5: Read a book out loud together
At my daughter’s age I read her picture books, but as she gets older I can’t wait to read chapter books with her!
Day 6: Have a spa night
This might be primarily for girls, but you can paint your nails, do facials, or other fun things like that!
If you have a boy who has 0 interest in this, let him have a free day and pick what he wants to do with you.
Day 7: Go on a picnic
This doesn’t have to be elaborate and can be in the backyard or at the park.
We ate sandwiches for dinner at the lake the other night and it was so fun!
Day 8: Go on an ice cream date
This is one of my favorites too, but that just might be because I love ice cream.
We go to the local Sonic or Dairy Queen to get yummy treats and spend time eating there together!
Day 9: Color in a coloring book together
Not only is coloring relaxing, but it can be fun to do with your kids too! Try an adult coloring book if you don’t want to color something out of a children’s color book!
Day 10: Go to the playground
Our playground is just around the corner so it isn’t hard for us to take a walk to play on the playground for a few minutes before bed!
Day 11: Build a LEGO kit together
My daughter LOVES these LEGO kits. They have different levels for different ages. When I do one with her we usually grab an older age group, but when she does one on her own we like the junior kits.
Day 12: Go to the dollar store and pick out a toy
We have a Dollar Tree where literally everything is a dollar and they have TONS of toys. It is so fun for kids to go there and pick out something fun to play with. Plus it makes them feel special.
Day 13: Go to the library and check out books
We do this almost every week and it is a fun way to get her doing something educational while spending one on one time with me! Then we spend more one on one time together reading the books before bed.
Day 14: Build a fort in the living room
Forget the mess and have some fun! Build a fort in the living room and camp out, watch movies, play games, or read books inside!
I tend to hate the messes that come with doing stuff like this, but remind myself that once a month or so isn’t going to kill me and I let go and have fun!
Day 15: Camp out in the backyard
If you have a tent, head out to the backyard and have some fun!
You don’t have to sleep out there if you don’t want to, but just going out there and pretending is always fun.
Day 16: Roast marshmallows
Build a campfire and roast marshmallows together! If you don’t have a place to make a fire you can get creative and make them in the microwave or oven.
Day 17: Play with play doh
My daughter would choose to do this every single day if I let her. You can get fun accessories to go along with the play-doh too!
Day 18: Make slime
It is a mess, but it is fun for kids!
We usually head outside for this. Here are TONS of fun slime ideas for you!
Day 19: Paint or finger paints
I get washable fingerpaints and head out to the backyard for this one! It is super easy to wash off and my daughter has a blast doing it!
Day 20: Build a puzzle
There are TONS of kids puzzles to choose from and it is also really educational for kids to do too!
Two of our favorites:
Day 21: Go for a bike ride
An easy way to get in some exercise and spend one on one time with your kids!
Day 22: Have a dance party
This is one of the best ways to deal with the dreaded “witching hour” too. Whenever everyone starts getting a little cranky, we turn on the tunes and have a dance party!
I let my preschooler make her own Spotify playlist with her favorite songs on it!
Day 23: Watch the sunset
Grab a chair and sit together to talk or watch it while eating dinner. There are tons of ways to do this, but the important thing is taking the time to put the phone away and enjoy it!
Day 24: Write a letter to each other
I love doing this and another really good idea is to write letters to each other to open in 5 years or another time.
If your kids are older try these journals:
Day 25: Play 20 questions
This is a super fun way to get to know your kids a little bit better!
Day 26: Make a time capsule
We haven’t done this one yet, but I saw it on Pinterest and it looked like a really cute idea!
Day 27: Do yoga
There is a kids yoga channel called Cosmic Kids Yoga that is really fun for kids. You can do your own Yoga routine beside them!
Day 28: Have a living room sleepover
This could be fun to do along with the fort!
I did this not long ago when my daughter was sick and thought to myself “why don’t I do this more often”!?
Day 29: Go to dinner just you two
We usually do breakfast dates together since I am a work at home mom and she isn’t in school yet, but taking your kiddo on a dinner date will make them feel so special.
Day 30: Play a sport of their choice
Get outside with them and play soccer or baseball!
They will love to see that you are interested in what they are interested in.