Being a stay at home mom who is trying to build and business and work towards getting a college degree can get pretty busy at times. There just isn’t enough hours in the day for me do it all after my daughter goes to sleep so I do some of my work during the day while she is awake and I am okay with that. I usually can’t work on anything that needs my 100% focus like writing a blog post or taking an online test for school, but I can schedule my social media posts and reply to emails while she is awake. I used to feel so guilty that I wasn’t spending every single minute of my day entertaining her, but I soon realized that I don’t need to feel guilty about it. The truth is that I want my kids to not rely on my attention 24/7. This is why I’m okay with letting my kids play alone while I work at home:
It’s good for her to see me working towards a goal
I want to be the best role model I can for my daughter. She might not understand what mommy is doing on the computer right now, but years down the road she will know that I was working towards my goals. Goals that will make not only my life better, but the family’s life better too. I want her to look up to me and know I worked hard to show her that your goals are attainable if you stay focused and work hard. In a way, I’m happy I didn’t get my degree before my daughter was born. I can’t wait for her to see me walking across the stage and being handed my hard-earned degree and I can’t wait for her to see that the many hours I spend working towards this blog will eventually provide an income for our family.
It’s good for me to have a life outside of motherhood
Before I became a parent I was involved in so many hobbies/activities. Then I quit almost everything to become a stay at home mom. After my daughter was born I felt a little bit lost. I was so fulfilled with being a mother, but something in my life was missing. I had lost my identity outside of being a mother and needed to find something additional to be passionate about. For me that was writing and this blog. For others it may be direct sales, another home based business, a gym membership, etc. My point is that it’s not only healthy for you, but for your whole family to see mom be passionate about something outside of the family.
It’s good for her to learn how to play by herself
Nothing brings me more happiness than laying on the floor playing with cars or having tickle fights with my daughter, but I don’t think it is a bad thing for her to learn to play by herself. In fact, I think it’s a GREAT thing for her to learn that it’s okay to be alone sometimes. She is my number one priority in life, but I want her to know that she doesn’t have to be the center of my attention 24/7. I realize that this may not be feasible for every child. I happened to get lucky this time around and most days she is pretty good about paying alone. We’ll see how lucky I get next time 😉
It’s good for me to have balance in life
After saying all of this I want to make a point to say that I don’t leave my child alone all day with no interaction while I’m at the computer. It’s all about how you balance your home life. Balance is what will make you both a successful mother and a have a successful career. Having balance will make you successful in all aspects of life! In the mornings we eat breakfast together and I will either turn on a movie or I will work/do schoolwork in the playroom. We specifically put my desk in the playroom for this purpose. I take frequent breaks between tasks to play with her. After lunch and nap time, I try to put the computer away completely until after she goes to sleep at night. This is the balance that works for us. Yours may look different, but I encourage you to find out what a successful balance looks like for you and your family.