Now that I have written about why you should stop yelling at your kids and how to stop yelling at your kids, I wanted to get advice from real life moms on how they deal with their anger in motherhood. The following quotes are from real moms who have the same frustrations that we do and wish to share how they have learned to cope when they get angry.
“I have two different tactics, one is the “long term” life tactic, so getting exercise, having some “me time” and all those things that we do to manage stress and maintain a good life balance. Obviously you can’t eliminate all stress (especially when you have 4 young kids). When I find myself getting cross, I close my eyes and concentrate on my breathing for a bit (that’s what I wrote a post about.) It really helps to calm me down.” – Orlena
Christina is a mom who discusses choosing kindness with your children and tips for keeping your cool in this short but powerful video.
“Breathe then react! Lol. It’s difficult to never yell, but the idea that a little human will understand why you’re yelling is slim to none. You don’t want to teach that as an accepted response to disapproval. Instead come from a place to teach and inspire them to learn new behavior. Not a lot of good comes from yelling.” – Tiffany
“A time out for mom and kids. Yes I did the occasional spanking when my boys were younger, usually time out but they are now 13 and 14. Now I put a stop to whatever is going on and tell them to stay put until I can calm myself down. Time out also works with the hubby. We have both resolved to step away from each other so as to avoid yelling even if it means walking away for a bit during the middle of a discussion.” – Kelly
“When you baby is first born they teach you to put them in the crib and walk away so you don’t get so frustrated you shake the baby. I still use that advice now that my child has reached the terrible twos. If she throws herself on the floor I walk into a different room. I don’t lose my cool and she learns that rolling around of the floor and screaming isn’t going to change my mind.” – Stacey
“Instead of yelling at or to the kids, just go outside and yell or go in the bathroom. Like yell a short tune or chorus to a motivational song. The time allows everyone to cool down, gets the yelling urge out in a more positive way and the motivational song can bring you back to neutral. Then go back and have a conversation with them about your frustration. I think too many parents are trying so hard to be a mirage of this immaculate perception that we can’t even begin to accept ourselves.Accept that you get mad, frustrated, sad, upset, angry etc. Embrace the fact that you are human and respect yourself so others can do the same for you. Why is it ok for everyone else to be human and parents “can’t”.” – Marilyn
“I try to remember that whatever my reaction is, its going to be teaching her how to react to others. If I can be calm and react lovingly, she’ll learn to do the same. If, however, I react in anger, she’s going to learn to do the same; our situations will escalate and we’ll all feel worse in the end.” – Megan
“I actually am thinking on this a lot today since I lost my cool with my toddler yesterday. And here’s what helps me: nutrition. Yesterday I didnt eat good at all, I didnt eat enough and I didnt take my supplements. In addition, I spent way too much online. By the end of the day, my brain was froggy and my nerves were raw. And I snapped. I immediately regretted it and apologized and then I took some Natural Calm (magnesium) to bring my nerves back down and within 20minutes I was feeling more like myself. This may not apply to everyone but Ive struggled with anxiety in the past and since I have started eating better and cleaner and supplementing with nutrients Im deficient in, I have more patience and less angst.” – Kim
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